Let me start by categorizing this question into three parts. One, was it really a bad thing? Two, was I, or someone else, personally responsible for it? And, three, was it truly something that happened that was beyond personal responsibility?
First, was it really a bad thing? We need to clarify if the situation that happened or is happening is truly “bad.” Maybe it is going to be “good” in the long run. Look at everything in your life that was interpreted as “bad” and ask yourself how it has served you now. This may blow your mind. For example, “If I didn’t get laid off, I would have never started my now successful business.” Most “bad” situations, even though we may not have understood them at the time, greatly turned out to be “good” for us down the road. Your adversity becomes your strength. A muscle needs to be torn to grow. Things happen to us to serve us in the long run. This is where we do not always understand God’s wisdom, but if you trust that His wisdom will be revealed, “bad” situations can be our greatest strength.
Second, was I, or someone else, personally responsible for it? God does not control our personal choices or the personal choices of others. That is why wrong things can happen. When someone does the Bad Six: Lies, Cheats, Steals, Mentally Harms, Physically Destroys or Physically Abuses another or themselves, this is wrong. God did not control that. That was a personal choice of someone